Adrian Savage wrote in Lifehack.Org, one of my most tech-things in the whole wide wourld about transforming 2008 into the "Your Best Year Ever". His advise is simple: Let go.
Let go of the past. It's over. And whatever your past resulted into, you probably can't undo them. If only there was a Ctrl+Z or a backspace that is applicable to life, I think I'd be the happiest man alive. But there isn't a Ctrl-X, a Ctrl+Z, or a backspace or delete button life. So I am going to listen to Adrian Savage about this - let go of the past. What I like most about his advise is let go of both the bad and the good - there's no point to replaying either. One makes you want to wish that you could've/would've done something else - and the other is actually pretty much the same thing - only, you want to prolong the enjoyment.
Let go of guilt. This is perhaps (as with most letting-go's) difficult. You cannot just switch off the "guilt button" and voila - guilt is one! Bu I would agree with him - it is useless emotion. Ad yet, I find myself stuck in it sometimes - mistaking guilt for conscience or remorse. Perhaps the line between guilt and remorse are thin - but remorse carries with it the possibility of not doing it again. Guilt simply mopes.
Let go of resentment, let go of revenge. For the last four weeks of my life, I have discovered things that would have led me to plan the most complicated of revenge plans because I was truly hurt. I vowed revenge on the players - only to realize that if I were to do that, I would be no more savage and hateful as they are. I choose the high-road - and I choose to look at them with compassion. How difficult was that to do - midst anger, rising blood pressures... But what a relief to simply let go.
And his last advice is "Let go of Joy".
At first, I didn't understand why I had to let go of joy. Until I realized that when we get obsessed with happiness - or joy - by our own terms (which typically is materialistic, financial-orientated or physically-related), that's when we suffer because of the trek to find joy.
The fleetingness of joy - it's transience. And of life.
This is indeed going to be a good year.